It’s the holiday season & that’s meant to be FUN time, right? But for so many it triggers off old patterns of behavior that can put you into victim mode of playing small, or getting anxious and aggressive.

In your everyday life it’s inevitable that you will encounter difficult situations and negative people.

Do you know the key to remaining neutral, enlightened and in your natural state of LOVE?

Here it is.

LIGHTEN UP!

In order to live as the best version of you—enlightened, empowered and inspired, you want to turn these tense situations into something that can make you smile!

Maybe you dread an uncomfortable conversation at the dinner table? Or perhaps it’s just trying to keep up with the extra shopping and family pressures that makes your shoulders tense?

Here are three ways to help handle negative situations and difficult people with grace and ease so you and your family can have more fun during the holidays.

ONE: IT’S ONLY EGO PUPPY ACTING UP!

When friends or family members push your buttons, for example they have prejudiced ideas or try to bait you into justifying who and what your beliefs are, don’t revert to old behaviors.

  1. Take a deep breath.
  2. Keep your mouth shut, and
  3. Activate your imagination – that’s right, your imagination!

puppy in troubleLook at the person and imagine them as a naughty puppy.

We have a lot of fun with this in our CODEBREAKER PLATINUM books. We invite you to imagine we are all born with an Ego Puppy that needs to be trained. What kind of puppy is the person who just piddled all over you? They just triggered off YOUR Ego Puppy response that you simply do not want to live with anymore.

TWO: DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY.

Rather than getting anxious and upset, realize it is only their Ego Puppy! Their programs and conditioned thinking have just been let off the leash and it is a great opportunity for you to forgive. Don’t take it personally; it’s ultimately about them and their ego puppy and usually has little to do with you!

  1. Choose to change the way you react.
  2. Breathe deeply.
  3. Forgive their programs and keep your mouth shut.

THREE: STOP! SIT, STAY, LISTEN & LEARN.

Your ego mind has you programmed to react in certain ways depending on the emotions that are elicited from people, places or events from your past.

When you feel yourself going into negative self talk, judgement, guilt, shame or blame you know it’s time to course correct back into your heart.

After all, it is just YOUR Ego Puppy misbehaving.

The easiest way to do this is to STOP! Command your Ego Puppy to Sit and Stay, Listen and Learn as you commit to staying calm.

  1. Forgive your own programs and reactions.
  2. Forgive others’ programs and reactions.
  3. Keep your mouth shut.

We’ve all been subjected to erroneous conditioning.

We’ve all received misleading signals, and no matter what, like that irresistible Ego Puppy, we all deserve love.

Be gentle with yourself this holiday season. Apply that same kindness and compassion to your family and friends.

Please share this holiday stress buster with your friends and family — you never know how much their Ego Puppy needs to hear this!

With love always coming to you from Manhattan Beach, California,

Sandra and Daniel Biskind

PS. Please let us know how well you are doing with your Ego Puppy this holiday season.

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